Choosing Friends

After you read this page, you might also want to read or review “Letting Others In”. The people that we have around us is very important, especially when we’re trying to break free of transgenderism. How do we go about choosing friends?

I’m going to start off with a Scripture that knocks out a lot of people … but there is balance required … Jesus related to sinners. We are to be in the world, but not of it. Read Psalm 1, “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful …” So, we are not to be influenced by: 1) the ungodly, 2) sinners, 3) the scornful. We need to recognize their ability to influence us, avoid the wrong paths, and influence them for Christ instead.

Psalm 1 goes on to say, “… but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and in His law he meditates day and night.” We are to be influenced by God’s Word, the Bible, the Holy Scriptures (see the page “Reading the Bible”). But, you may say, “This is not a person … what does this have to do with choosing friends?” A lot. The Bible is our best friend … it is Jesus speaking to us. In the first verses of the book of John, Jesus is referred to as “The Word”. “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God … And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth.” Choose Jesus to be your best friend. He stands at the door of your heart and knocks (see Revelation 3:20).

We started with Psalm 1 to answer the question, “How do I best choose friends?” Well, another helpful verse is found in Psalm 16: “As for the saints who are on the earth, “They are the excellent ones, in whom is all my delight.” ” Why are saints or true Christians so special? God gives us several good reasons: 1) they have a new heart (see Ezekiel 36:25-27) or are “born-again” (see John 1:12-13 and 3:3), 2) they have the Holy Spirit living in them (see 1 Corinthians 6:19), 3) they have God’s law in their minds and written on their hearts (see Jeremiah 31:33).

You just need to have some discernment about who among your Christian friends you choose to confide in about your struggle with transgenderism. My advice is to keep it to just a few, six or eight maybe … mature believers, kind, loving, understanding, empathetic, having a Biblical worldview, steady, wise, etc.