Here are some of the key thoughts to dealing with the sin of effeminacy and transgender temptations. They are not in order of importance, but are all given to you in love.
- Do not harm yourself … there is hope … your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit … you are not your own … Jesus bought you with His precious blood.
- God created you in your God-given gender … you will always be your birth gender, even if you change your appearance … you cannot change your chromosomes … there are many SRS reversal surgeries taking place … start thanking God for how He wisely chose to create you.
- Ask Jesus to show you the reason(s) your gender identity is confused … ask Him to heal any broken-heartedness.
- Ask Jesus to show you if there is a feminine idol in your heart, and, if so, ask Jesus to help you destroy it.
- Ask the Holy Spirit to help you know what to repent of … coveting, idolatry, stealing, adultery (sexual immorality), etc. (Exodus 20, Deuteronomy 5) … cross-dressing (Deuteronomy 22:5) … emasculation (Deuteronomy 23:1) … effeminacy (1 Corinthians 6:9 NASB)
- Stay clear of the places that cause you trouble … go around … use available software like “Covenant Eyes” to stay away from problem websites.
- Have an accountability partner who will help you to make right decisions and hold you accountable … ask you how you’re doing.
- Ask God to break any unhealthy soul ties … any ancestral iniquities.
- Begin reading God’s word every day … try reading “Daily Light” … get God’s word into your mind … it matches what He’s written on your heart.
- Be in a Bible believing church … preferably “reformed” … you are not to walk alone … seek out wise and compassionate “saints” to walk with you.
- Choose a good and wise counselor … one who will help you with “renewing your mind” (Romans 12:1-2) with God’s word and pray for you.
- Make Jesus Christ your Lord, your best friend … obey Him.
- It is all of grace … put on “God’s Armor” … stand firm … speak truth.
- Pray to your Heavenly Father (see the post “Prayer”) in Jesus’ name.
- Take every thought captive in obedience to Christ (2 Cor. 10:3-5).
- You’re a “saint”, a new creation (2 Cor. 5:17) … your spirit is willing.
- You have a new identity “in Him” (Ephesians) … you are not a TG.